Falling in love and getting married can be invigorating and scary all at once.  

Every person is born with the propensity to trust others, but through life experiences, you may have become less trusting as a form of self-protection.  

 

One of the hardest things about trusting someone is learning to have confidence in your own judgment.  An inability to trust a new partner may take several forms, from feeling they’re dishonest or secretive, to doubting they’re going to keep their promises or be dependable.

 

Trust is about much more than finding signs that your partner has been deceitful; dishonest or even unfaithful - it’s about believing that they have your best interests at heart.

The reality is that trust is built slowly over time and occurs as you move through life together.  This is not to say that the trust you have now isn’t real, it is however, an acknowledgement that the trust you do have is not yet as strong as it will be one day.

Unfortunately, betrayal in one form or another, exists in every relationship.  These include subtle misunderstandings, unmet expectations, poor choices, addictive or abusive behaviours, or bad coping behaviours.  

Infidelity, either emotional or sexual, is considered the ultimate tragic betrayal of trust and intimacy.

 

In all of these cases, the subsequent breach of our personal values of honesty, trust, integrity, fidelity, loyalty and respect, present unique opportunities for rebuilding trust in your relationship.

As counsellors, we know that Trust is an essential aspect of intimacy and we know that some of the strongest and most trusting relationships are based on repairing the breach of trust following a betrayal. 

We work with and help you and your partner navigate the betrayal that has entered your relationship.  Trust is rebuilt as you express compassion and empathy for one another’s feelings, and this foundation is essential when your relationship has faced any form of betrayal. 

 

We help you learn how to respond in a productive and effective way using our unique communication skills and emotional connection method, to help you grow and strengthen your relationship for the long-term benefit of you, your partner, your children and your family unit.

Take a moment to consider this:

 

Your partner is not solely responsible for creating mistrustful feelings. In most cases, you must take equal responsibility for creating an atmosphere of safety and security in your relationship.

 

In order to begin the process of overcoming mistrust, ask yourself:

  • What is the story I’m telling myself?

  • Does my fear of loss and abandonment cloud my perspective and cause me to overreact to my partner’s actions?

  • Is my mistrust coming from something that is actually happening in the present, or is it related to my past?

  • Do I feel comfortable asking for what I need and allowing myself to be vulnerable?

  • Do I bring my best self to my interactions with my partner?

  • Do I possess self-love and allow myself to be loved and respected?

 

Many relationships are sabotaged by self-fulfilling prophecies.  

 

If you believe your partner will hurt you, you can unconsciously encourage hurts to emerge in your relationship.  

 

But day by day, if you learn to operate from a viewpoint that your partner loves you and wants the best for you, you can enjoy trust in your marriage.

At Life Vision Counselling, we do not bill a surcharge, or any additional fees for evening, or weekend appointments.  However Late Cancellation or No Show Fees Do Apply.

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240 Plenty Road

BUNDOORA   VIC   3083

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All sessions for counselling or hypnotherapy are by appointment only.  Please note that your appointment is reserved especially for you.  We appreciate you providing 48 hours notice if you need to reschedule your appointment.  A late cancellation fee of $100 will be applied for counselling bookings Mon-Fri and the FULL fee for Saturday.  a No Show fee is the FULL fee for the booked appointment when you do not attend or fail to provide prior notice of your inability to attend.  The fee is $180 for hypnotherapy bookings if you provide less than 48 hours notice of a cancellation.   ... Read More

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